Like all kids, the boy does have some trying moments. Time out has generally not worked well with him. He doesn’t get it and neither do I understand the merits. And like Irene, I’m quite sick of playing the nagging mom and have introduced the behavior board with him, much like the good deed system she has implemented with Hailey.
There are two columns to the board. One denoting his good behaviour and the other his bad behaviour. He gets a smiley at the end of each day if he’s been generally well behaved; maybe two if he has been exceptional. If he has misbehaved, he’ll get a frownie. Although he’s supposed to receive small rewards if his good behaviour outdo his bad but in reality, I think he’s quite happy just adding up the smileys he gets.
Anyway, there is another behaviour board at home apart from his and the other belongs to mommy! The boy administers the board such that for each smiley I award him, I get one too. And for each frownie he gets, I get one, sometimes two.
Next to be implemented : Daddy’s behaviour board!
I implemented a ‘star award’ on Damien, if he behave generally well, he’ll get a star at the end of the day, if not, a frown…I would say it certainly works better than me nagging non-stop …
Eileen: Ya, I’m tired of nagging too…
Comment by Eileen — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 @ 5:36 pm
Yah ha… I shd apply that to my girls earlier… they are getting out of hand these days and It’s so tiring to keep nagging them where after each day tiring work what I really want is just a gd bonding or chatting with them… and whenever I nag and start giving them a dressing down, somehow Im like a “bad” mommy, upsetting their day…
And it kinda cute that Gavin chart ur behavior too.
I think that very healthy. Somehow balance up the kids feeling. When they r happy they credit u too and when they r upset abt the frownie received, they can mark their unhappiness on our board too. It somehow settle they emotion and hopefully they dont feel it in person.
But Im think it works on a validity age. The weffectiveness will goes down with the age going up. For Im sure it wont work for the “big” kid in my family :p
wtpg: Try it with the girls. I think it works better than scolding, nagging or time out. But I have to deal with his emotional blackmail. He’s always negotiating for me to give him smileys and on some day, literally force me to give it to him. And yes, there is an age limit! Haha…
Comment by wtpg — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 @ 8:41 am