My FIL is fairly impatient and has quite a temper. Often, when we’re alone together like last week when I gave him a lift home, he’ll share his heroic stories about how he stood up against unreasonable customers or bullies. While listening to him, I often wonder if my husband would turn up to be like his dad when he’s older. Like father, like son?
In fact, I’ve already noticed similiar traits and have voiced my concerns. The man of course assured me he’s unlike his dad but who is to say what can happen 10 or 20 years down the road. Like I told my son, a volcano may be inactive now, but it doesn’t mean it won’t erupt later! Moreoever, I’ve had a taste of his explosive outburst before and least to say, it’s frightening.
Like I wrote in this entry what happens when love grows old, I don’t want to end up like my MIL, who is always complaining about their relationship. Neither do I want to take the extreme approach of someone I knew who divorced the husband because she saw the mirror image emerging. I want to have a decent marital relationship into old age!
So I’m secretly hoping that the man’s affectionate side would prevail.
And while I’m writing this, I’m also reminding myself. Beware of my own mirror image too!
At least you work on the marriage.
Comment by zara's mama — Fri, 8 Aug 2008 @ 11:29 am
I think we all become a little like our parents… but we are also very conscious about it.. which makes us a wee bit better..?? In any union .. be it a man and a woman or mother and son.. or mother and daughters.. it takes alot of hardwork. I try to see the good in PB .. and constantly remind myself.. that no one is perfect.. and try to talk things out. PB only once raised his voice at me.. in all our 8 yrs together.. and another 6 online. Considering all factors.. and what a B.I.T.C.H i can be.. at times.. i think he faired better than i had expected. As for loving..?? i think we need to work on it. Ever since chloe was born.. i had been so busy just concentrating on her.. instead of the man. I know he must sometimes feel neglected. But now that the brat is much older.. and i forsee better health in the near future.. i cannot wait to go pak tohing.. with the man. Patience has never been my strongest forte .. and i really have to work on it.
Comment by mama bok — Fri, 8 Aug 2008 @ 1:26 pm
I don’t mind hubby becoming like FIL when he’s old…BUT I definitely do not want to be like my MIL when I’m old..hee hee…
Comment by Eileen — Fri, 8 Aug 2008 @ 2:23 pm
Enjoy the present and don’t think about the future
Comment by dilutedmagnetics — Fri, 8 Aug 2008 @ 3:27 pm