I was pretty perturbed after reading the local news about the 16-year-old boy who had oral sex with the HIV-infected Singapore man. It was reported that his parents are not talking to him and if this is true, I wonder what’s going on in their minds.
Maybe I’ve been too affected by what’s happening around me, but really. Can’t they find a space in their hearts to forgive their own child and embrace him again? It’s not like he has committed a heinous crime and even if it is, he’s afterall their child isn’t it? If they cannot even accept him again, how is he going to find the courage to face the world on his own? He’s only 16!!!
Which brings me back to what’s been bugging me of late. If we cannot even go back home and receive some sort of emotional understanding and support in times of need, then WTF is a family for?
This is the whole trouble. Of why kids and teens would rather turn to their friends or people they barely know for support. And can you really blame them for getting misguided?
I know what you mean..SS. My mother used to think that my sister and I were bad gals.. but you see.. we couldn’t say anything to my mom.. nor share anything with her.. unless it was good news.. else .. she just freaked right out. *shrug*.. i hope i would never be this kinda parent to my brat.
MB: Ya, me too. I hope I’ll be more open minded than that.
Comment by Mama BoK — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 @ 8:13 am
I think it all boils down to ‘face’ problem..you know, to some parents, ‘face’ is the most important thing, even more so than their child’s emotional growth…
Eileen: *sigh*
Comment by Eileen — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 @ 1:21 pm
frankly, when i realized that my mother’s and my views/character everything clashed, i did not bother to seek any sort of help from her. i prefer to turn to friends.
today, there is no more angst, anger or emotions. just detachment.
likewise, i do not want family members to seek my help just because it’s family. neither will i offer.
family doesn’t equal feeling love and respect. to me, it’s just an unfortunate definition.
imp: I wish I can be more detached but the irony of it all is a lot is still expected from me emotionally.
Comment by imp — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 @ 6:52 pm
True. That’s why I think as parents, we really have a tough job to do, and I hope I can do it well.
Comment by zara's mama — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 @ 10:19 am