The car battery has gone flat and I am so glad I wasn’t driving it when it happened.  Because I wouldn’t know what to do!  I guess my brain is just not wired for car maintenance and even a simple task like filling it with petrol can make me all uncomfortable.  In fact, whenever I have cold wars with my husband, the first thing that comes to my mind is, WHO’S GOING TO HELP ME FILL THE CAR WITH PETROL?

It’s ridiculous I know.  I have come to rely on him when it comes to matters concerning the car that I feel helpless on my own.  There’s an emotional barrier between me and the car.  And that emotional barrier is my husband!  I NEED him to maintain the car.  In fact, I’ve grown comfortable RELYING on him and when I know I can’t do it, it gets me all upset. 

I remember someone once compared her need for her husband to a glass of plain water.  She doesn’t feel excited about him like she used to, but like water, she needs him to be around.  It sounds a little sad, but at the same time, it strucked me that relationships thrive on NEEDS when the passion is gone.  And this is likely one of the reasons why some people hang on to their partners even when love is gone as well.

So if you’re in a relationship, you better darn well make sure you’re NEEDED in some ways, no matter how small.  But hopefully, the reason you’re needed or what you need is based mostly on the intangibles because we know how easily tangibles can be replaced.  And if you say you rather be independent, I say good for you.  Because you most probably don’t need a relationship then!

For me, I’m thankful we both still need each other, intangibles and tangibles!