A few days ago, daddy caught the boy playing with his willy. Usually, the boy would have been reprimanded. However, this time, daddy just told him nicely that the act isn’t hygienic. He didn’t raise his voice at the boy for fear of being shunned again, like what happened weeks ago, when he chided the boy for being playful with his eyes.
And I thought it is funny that as parents, we actually have to fear losing our child’s love, which is not unlike a child’s anxiety of losing his parents’ approval. And it’s precisely this fear that drives parents to spare the rod and spoil the child or the kid to be less communicative or tell white lies.
Come to think of it, such a fear extends to most of our relationships. The fear of losing the love of the other drives us to accept shortcomings, overlook misbehaviors and ignore glaring misdeeds.
Love is such a double-edged sword!
My interpretation for this is, the fear party love the other party more. Making the other party always at the upper hand, and the smart one knows how to take advantage.
However, Im more forgiving toward children as they are so young, I understand they are still at their learning curve, I will encourage more than reprimand.
However when one reach adulthood yet still behaving like a baby, I think it a nuisance. Albeit, sometimes I do pity them. Perhaps some are struggling, I dont despite but those who is oblivious then im sorry…
Comment by wtpg — Wed, 2 Apr 2008 @ 11:21 am
And I thought.. no matter one.. they will love us just like we love them.. Looks like it’s not the case.
ZM: They do for most part now…but maybe a different story when they grow older.
Comment by zara's mama — Mon, 7 Apr 2008 @ 2:10 pm