Unless what I read from the magazine is completely fabricated, we actually have this in Singapore.
Taken from Wikipedia:
Swinging, sometimes referred to as the swinging lifestyle, is “non-monogamous sexual activity, treated much like any other social activity, that can be experienced as a couple.”
To put it crudely, if you’re into swinging, it means you and your partner are having sex with someone else TOGETHER. You and your partner could mean you and your husband or you and your wife.
And the scenario I read from the magazine was, the husband actually arranged for another man to have sex with him and his wife together. I know this is rampant in other countries and I heard fairly common in parts of North Asia but in Singapore? I was even more flabbergasted when I read that this particular couple have children. WTF?
Apparently the couple advertised their interest on the Net and when I went to search, there is really a whole website, forum and even blog on this. I won’t post the link here. You can google for it yourself if you’re interested. I took a glance at their main message in the front page for about a minute and I was out.
This is completely perverse to me. How can anyone sustain a meaningful relationship after undertaking such “social activities” as a couple? And why people get married, have kids and still do such things is really beyond me.
I think it is just an excuse for the man or the woman.. to have an affair legally.. with consent from the other half. Many, many years ago.. i had an ex-b/f who was into trying anything. He even found ah kuas fascinating. Whether or not he slept with them.. i donch know.. but i found it really repulsive.. that he would think the ah kua was more fascinating than his g/f.
MB: I cannot understand the behavior. If they want to indulge in this, then why get married? Some pple are quite perverts. But your last line is funny. Good thing you broke off with him.
Comment by Mama BoK — Thu, 27 Sep 2007 @ 3:41 pm
i read that magazine’s article you mentioned, and it left me feeling “disturbed”. it is absolutely perverse. the meaning and purpose of marriage is lost…
Lia: Was it Female or Her World I cannot remember now. But yes, like you, I felt very disturbed and that’s why I wrote about it. Exactly what you said, the meaning and purpose of marriage is lost.
Comment by Lia — Thu, 27 Sep 2007 @ 7:56 pm
Haiz! Then might as well dounch get married.
ashes: Ya, similar thoughts here.
Comment by ashes — Fri, 28 Sep 2007 @ 10:12 am
*speechless*
But.. anything is possible in this world.. and Singapore is becoming more and more ‘ang moh’.
Still it’s better to do this and get everybody’s consent than what’s happening in MY… lots of phedeophiles on the loose kidnapping and raping children. *sigh*
ZM: *sigh* It’s a sad state of affairs…
Comment by zara's mama — Wed, 3 Oct 2007 @ 4:10 pm