Seriously I cannot recall when was the last time I met my best friend. Nine months ago? Or even a year ago? It was definitely a long stretch of time that we haven’t seen each other, and didn’t even communicated much via phone or sms.
Despite the lapse, we haven’t grown uncomfortable with each other. A friendship of 20 years can withstand that amount of time. Yet there are obviously gaps in our lives that we have both missed out on each other. Stories in our lives that’s hard to put across succintly in two hours. Things that are happening that we are unable to explain too clearly as well.
Like I was surprised that she has grown her hair long and is actively doing yoga as well as quilting again. And that she has made some new friend whom she didn’t speak about but this person kept calling her throughout our two hour lunch meeting.
It didn’t matter though. We just focused on catching up and having lunch. Her wasabi prawn salad and my garlic prawn pasta. Her cappuccino and my ice passion tea.
A bit stuffed I must say. But nonetheless a delight which could be repeated more often.
Yup, these days, it’s so difficult to meet up with friends…. for each has their own commitment.
Luckily there is the invention of the smses, at least can still keep in touch by messages
SSF: Yalor…but even sending sms also requires time…
Comment by sunshinensunflower — Thu, 26 Jul 2007 @ 1:18 am
I agree with you .. good friends donch need to meet often.. the friendship one has with another.. for more than 20yrs does not just run dry.
MB: Yup, with real friends, even if we don’t meet for 20 years, it’s still the same comfortable feeling.
Comment by Mama BoK — Thu, 26 Jul 2007 @ 3:40 am
So nice to have best friend
But good friend is always not easy to come by…
I thot I hv a few but little did I realise… they are actually not… so I hv learn to take it easy too…
wtpg: Yes, agree real friends are hard to find. Only a few are for keeps.
Comment by wtpg — Thu, 26 Jul 2007 @ 1:25 pm
I agreed with wtpg, gd friends are not easy to come by.
You may think they are your best or gd friend but in fact they are not.
ashes: Yalor…in name but not in act.
Comment by ashes — Thu, 26 Jul 2007 @ 2:24 pm
I cannot live with such long absences. I do not like the feeling that I do not know much about them after a while. I will email/sms/call my friends just to keep them close to me.
DR: I suppose we’ve grown too comfortable with one another that’s why. And also that we still regard each other as best pals. With other friends, yes, it could be a problem not catching up too regularly.
Comment by domestic rat — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 @ 9:30 am
Old friends are the bestes!
zm: Yeah…
Comment by zara's mama — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 @ 11:46 am