A new name I coined for him, just for fun, not because he’s green like Shrek. Nah.
And unlike Shrek, he was very happy to be a father. You should have seen him when I was pregnant. Whenever we were out, he would put a protective hand blocking my tummy if there were any signs of impending danger. Like people walking too near to me.
Then when the boy was born, he was half the confinement maid. Bathing and changing him in the mornings before heading to work, sometimes coming back during lunchtime to check things out and then rushing off again. It was a difficult time for him as well, but he never complaint very much about having to help out with the boy, even in the nights.
Maybe he doesn’t seem that gentle with the boy these days especially with their wrestlings and what nots, but I know he loves him a lot. In fact, he showers plenty of affection on the little one (none left for the mommy) on a daily basis and I believe the person he most miss when he travels is also the boy.
So I asked the boy to wish him a happy Father’s Day in the morning. No celebration he asked in return and that made me rolled my eyes. What do you expect? We don’t even celebrate Mother’s Day mind you. And that kept him quiet, promptly.
That’s one thoughtful hubby you have! Is that why he’s not pressing for another?
We don’t celebrate mother’s day or father’s day, in that we go out for meals etc. It’s up to the kids, if they want to make some little gifts.
ee: He said that one is enough woh…
Comment by earthember — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 @ 11:05 am
Gosh, can’t believe how many mistakes I make just typing that comment. My brain is not working.
I meant, is that why he doesn’t press u for another baby?
We don’t go out for meals, and buy presents on fathers/mothers’ day.
Comment by earthember — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 @ 11:10 am
“Bathing and changing him in the mornings before heading to work, sometimes coming back during lunchtime to check things out and then rushing off again. It was a difficult time for him as well, but he never complaint very much about having to help out with the boy, even in the nights.”
Wow! That’s some hubby you got there. It just goes to show how much he loves you.
DR: Love the boy you mean…
Comment by domestic rat — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 @ 1:08 pm
Actions are more important than words. I think hubby sounds like he’s a good guy even without celebrations.
ally:
Comment by ally bean — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 @ 8:52 am
you’ve got a great hubby there, especially with those kind of love showered upon you and your boy!
msff: Thanks for the comment…
Comment by msfairface — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 @ 10:03 am
Somehow I knew you will reply exactly that…”love the boy”. Girl, you really ought to look at him from a different perspective.
DR: Heh. Must give him some pressure mah…he got read the comments one ok…
Comment by domestic rat — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 @ 6:21 pm
Exactly! I find ur hubby loving leh, esp the protecting part, afraid u will be hurt during ur pregnancy… and how he help up during ur confinement and unconditioned love for the boy… all the deposites as good father… fit enough to categorise good man leh :p
You shd really look at him from a different prospective. Wait till you see my man…
During my confinement, he did took 2 days leave but went MIA after so call getting things for my needs. He took for granted that there was a maid to help me, but I thought there were so much parenthood we have to share… he didnt give the suppport when I was trying to breastfeed, the bonding time when I bath the babies…
and guess what he reply when I asked him what’s confinement are meant me? I suppose to have abundant rest and ban tourching water…
yet he literally explained :”sit on the moon lor!”
confinement in mandarin called 做月（坐月）
You say vomit blood or not ;(
wtpg: Wah you say until so good his head cannot go through the door liao… But give and take lah. Sometimes different pple have different perspective and take about how things should be, even our partners.
Comment by wtpg — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 @ 7:30 pm
That’s very nice of Daddy Ogre..! not many chinese man i know.. would helped out the way he does..
lots of brownie points for him eh..?? i think once we become parents.. the kid is most important.. and nothing else.. donch you think..?? in our case.. i think it is true.. !
MB: The golden words of a true blue parent! This is the reality of most marriages - that kids come first no matter what. Cannot achieve the loving standard pre-kid anymore!
Comment by Mama BoK — Wed, 20 Jun 2007 @ 2:09 am