There is a meme floating around and I haven’t been tagged on this but I thought it’s something interesting to do. On why I married my husband.
The number one reason was because he always help me to carry my stuff. Whether it is a big item, my bag or just my coat. I don’t know about other women but that impressed me a lot. In fact, our relationship started because that man actually volunteered to help me carry some big items for a working trip without any complaints even though he knew I dislike him and was hardly civil with him most of the time then.
And when we were dating, he had no qualms about carrying my handbag for me, regardless of the design, the colour or the size. I couldn’t help but compared him with an ex who refused to carry my bag even if I was ill unless I have it put in a paperbag. Here is a guy who was not afraid of being considerate and of course that got me some positive attention.
The next reason was because he was not afraid to shed tears, especially when it came to our relationship. I have met guys who have shed tears but he’s was a little different. It was just a geniune reflection of his state of feelings. Not pretentious, weak or mushy.
But the real reason was him going trekking with me in Nepal and asking me to marry him then. It was impossible to say no up in the mountains without taking the risk of being pushed down and disappearing into the pits forever. HA.
Before we married, I had actually mentioned to someone that he was perfect in every sense for me except for his age. But of course I discovered it wasn’t true. The man has a dark side that can be quite frightening and there were times I almost waved the white D flag to bail myself out of the ugly times. I sometimes wonder how we managed to survive those days and still stay together till now.
Maybe it’s because we both share the same sense of wicked and perverted humor. Maybe it’s because we both got too comfortable to leave one another. Or maybe on days when it’s a little dark, I can still hear his little pledge ringing in my ear.
我相信天长地久.
Marriage is such a gamble ain’t it.. SS..!! no matter how much good we wanna see in our spouse.. we all know that he ain’t perfect. But neither .. are we eh..hhahah!!!
But even with their flaws .. we still love them all the same.. and moreso now.. because of our children. I always tell myself.. that surely a man.. who loves his daughter this much.. can’t be all that bad eh..??
MB: Papa Bok is a good man. No doubt… And it’s true that marriage is a gamble. You win some, you lose some…
Comment by Mama BoK — Wed, 2 May 2007 @ 11:55 pm
Like you I like “a guy who was not afraid of being considerate.” My husband is the same way in that he’ll carry anything for me without being asked and with no expectation that there is any special reward in it for him.
We got ourselves some good ones, didn’t we?
ally: Yeah…we’ve got ourselves good porters!
Comment by ally bean — Thu, 3 May 2007 @ 12:59 am
“….that man actually volunteered to help me carry some big items for a working trip without any complaints even though he knew I dislike him and was hardly civil with him most of the time then.” Maybe he already had his mind set on you then!!!
DR: No lah…he definitely didn’t have his eyes on me then. He didn’t like me that much either.
Comment by domestic rat — Thu, 3 May 2007 @ 9:20 am
sounds like he is a nice guy! very thoughtful, helpful, and caring. with these traits, you can easily overlook whatever little flaws he has.
Belle: Well, overall I think he’s a family loving man. So that’s a plus.
Comment by Belle — Thu, 3 May 2007 @ 9:36 am
Such a sweet guy! Envy! Envy wor!
ashes: Got sweet also got sour and bitter wor…
Comment by ashes — Thu, 3 May 2007 @ 10:25 am
and today, your marriage is stronger than before because of all these shared experiences…. and love.
imp: You’re right about that. Being able to go thru those tough times does strengthen the r/s…
Comment by imp — Thu, 3 May 2007 @ 11:18 am
Wow… indeed you had a romance courtship and a very touched proposal huh ;p
Good for you! and keep on beholding this believing, he is forever your man
wtpg:
Comment by wtpg — Thu, 3 May 2007 @ 2:02 pm
“The next reason was because he was not afraid to shed tears, especially when it came to our relationship. I have met guys who have shed tears but he’s was a little different. It was just a geniune reflection of his state of feelings. Not pretentious, weak or mushy.”
My hub is also such a SNAG and to be honest, I like seeing him cry sometimes. Aww so sadistic isn’t it? haha
msff: Yup, I agree. You’re a sadist! Haha…
Comment by msfairface — Thu, 3 May 2007 @ 6:19 pm
Should have tagged you on how he pisses you off to hear the other side of the story.
天长地久? Married 9years and I still don’t believe in that.
ZM: Well, maybe not so much a belief but that still remains a goal…
Comment by zara's mama — Tue, 8 May 2007 @ 9:39 pm
wow, proposing while trekking in Nepal, you’ve got a very romantic man there leh..
DT: That was in the past…not anymore now.
Comment by DT — Fri, 11 May 2007 @ 12:23 pm