One of my colleagues recently went to Vietnam and bought some nice tote bags. She’s going to pass me one soon. No, I didn’t ask her to get for me although I had wanted to. I just offered to buy it from her because it’s an extra piece she has.
Well, I find it really difficult to get friends or colleagues who are travelling to buy stuff for me even when they offer to. There’s always a consideration of their convenience.
Moreover, I’ve seen some girlfriends complaining when their friends get them to buy stuff. So I rarely ask even when offered and the few times I did, the items were very small with specific information given on where to obtain.
In the same vein, I don’t mind a shopping list from my friends if detailed information is supplied and the items are not bulky. But there are some things I would freak out at.
Some years ago, a friend, on knowing I was heading to Bangkok had asked me to get her some undies. NO WAY! I don’t know about others, but this is something so personal I really would never think about. My friend thought I was so strange to have spurned her request. Even my best friend thought it was perfectly fine and didn’t understand my strong reactions.
So ladies. Was I overreacting? Would you ask your friend to buy undies for you? Or would you buy undies for your girlfriends?
Hey, I still have the tote bag you gave me many many yrs back.
If they don’t mind, I will leh or if they ask me to I will also help me… kekekeke…
ashes: Wah…I cannot remember which one I gave you leh…so long ago…
Comment by ashes — Fri, 16 Mar 2007 @ 11:45 am
Nah.. i wouldn’t ask my g/fs to get me undies.. or bras.. so personal .. stuff like that. If my g/fs asked.. i would get it for them. .but gotta give specific instructions.. and where to get. i just would be too “paiseh” to inconvenience ppl lor..
MB: Yalor…I’m also like you. Paiseh lah…
Comment by Mama Bok — Fri, 16 Mar 2007 @ 1:30 pm
With specific information, I don’t mind helping friends shop for stuff. That said, I also had a very bad experience with a close gf who refused to pay me and take the goods after I bought the stuff at her instruction. So I’m more selective these days.
DR: What? Refused to pay you? Waaa…that’s so terrible of her…
Comment by domestic rat — Fri, 16 Mar 2007 @ 3:01 pm
I think you’d probably have to be the best of friends to be asking someone else to buy lingerie.
Loong: She was quite close to me at that time. But still, it’s a no no for me. Not even for my best friend. Just too weird.
Comment by Loong — Fri, 16 Mar 2007 @ 6:49 pm
i have this group of close girlfriends who will travel and exchange shopping lists. of course we’ve ground rules- payment in full, the practical stuff.
it’s been 10yrs and it worked great for us. lingerie is THE THING that has topped our shopping lists. we have no problems buying them, nighties/corsets/undies/lace, whatever. we know one another’s likes/dislikes/sizes/and degree of adventurous spirit.
so now, we realize that we haven’t bought lingerie frm malls in singapore for the past couple of years.
imp: That’s interesting to hear your story and what you and your girlfriends share. Seriously, I really don’t know why I’m so anal about this.
Comment by imp — Sat, 17 Mar 2007 @ 2:41 pm
don’t think you’re anal. it’s just your preference.
tell u something, i’d not hesitate to ask the girls to get me lingerie. but i’d hesitate big time asking them to buy me liquor n cosmetics frm DFS.
those, i’d do it myself.
Haha…I think you’re being considerate too!
Comment by imp — Sun, 18 Mar 2007 @ 12:20 am
eh, I do not ask my gfs to buy those lingerie for me when they go to Bangkok, so I usually will not expect or feel comfortable when I am asked to do that too. It’s like so personal eh!
I do not mind buying them snacks though
msfairface: So you also think it’s too personal? For a moment, I thought it was just me being weird.
Comment by msfairface — Mon, 19 Mar 2007 @ 2:01 pm
I won’t ask for underwear - choice, comfort etc is just too personal. Liquor maybe but only from DFS so as not to trouble ppl. Btw, I tagged you
Paris: Haha…same league too huh?
Thanks for the tag. Will check it out.
Comment by Paris Beaverbanks — Mon, 19 Mar 2007 @ 3:59 pm
I actually don’t mind buying undies for my lady friends..
As long as things are not overly heavy, or that I need to spend a lot of time trying to locate an item, I quite enjoy buying things for friends when I go abroad.
ZM: Yeah, cannot be too heavy or bulky or difficult to find.
Comment by zara's mama — Tue, 20 Mar 2007 @ 12:15 pm