Recently I called my mum and she mentioned that she was all alone at home. I knew that comment was not made to make me feel bad and only a mere reflection of her state. But somehow I felt sad after hearing that.
I really wish I can spend more time with her. I suppose I can if I really make an effort to, but so far, I’ve only kept to visiting her once a fortnight, for a couple of hours. And not that it’s always with enthusiasm. Sometimes I have to drag my feet over.
Is this how I’ve grown up to be? That I’m so caught up with the grinds of my daily living that I’ve forgotten my mother little by little by the day? That even spending time with her is but a chore to me?
But not my mum. She gave me a box of these jellies she made over the week before I left her house this morning. She remembers they’re my favourite. And she made more, so that she can share them with me.
Nothing can beat the companion of a Mum….. enjoy bonding with yours
My Mum and I can go on and on for hours on anything under the sun……once we start on the chat.
Guess that’s the unique bond shared between mothers and daughters
ssf: That’s nice…next time Nutty will do the same with you too.
Comment by sunshinensunflower — Mon, 15 Jan 2007 @ 1:49 am
I suppose my relationship with my Mom is perhaps similar to yours, more than cordial but never really intimate like some folks. But I do try to make an effort to go shop and eat out with her whenever I’m back though; I hate to live with the ‘I wish I had spent more time with her before ….’ thought.
DR: I’m quite close to my mum but just that there are some things I won’t share with her now. It’s all rather complicated lah…
Comment by domestic rat — Mon, 15 Jan 2007 @ 10:03 am
that’s so sweet of your mummy!
seeing your post made my heart ached a little, I too have been too occupied with my own little family and life, I seem to have neglected my mum too!!!
Jan: Ya, preoccupied is the word!
Comment by Jan (My lovely Rays) — Mon, 15 Jan 2007 @ 11:10 am
hmmm. i’m not at all close to my mother. i don’t visit her and i don’t call her. there is a gulf there since i was a kid that both of us prefer not to be bridged.
i thought i’d feel guilty. but till now, i’ve only been feeling relieved that i need not be responsible for her life or her happiness.
imp: As long as both of you are comfortable in this state, then just let it be.
Comment by imp — Mon, 15 Jan 2007 @ 1:14 pm
That’s a mother’s love for her daughter…very sweet.
Like SSSF, i share a very close bond with my mum too. I’m still very much a ‘mummy’s girl’ even though i’m now a mother myself.
Treasure every moments with your mum…
Eileen: You mum takes care of Damien too right? So that adds to the closeness as well I suppose.
Comment by Eileen — Mon, 15 Jan 2007 @ 3:12 pm
Your mum must be very lonely… but she didnt forget to cheer herself up by making her daughter’s favourite jelly. You know, that kind of enthusiasm that drive a person to do something for their love one & especially excited to see how happy the receiver will be…
However, today society, it’s inevitable that many people will forget or even lost the sentiment to shower love to their love one. Normally we called that take for-granted. Not that they dont love them anymore but too caught up/drained up by own life…
Someday, I dont feel like visiting her also and when reach her plc, happen she has something upset also, worsen everbody mood… but still there are other days when we appreciate each other company.
Try engaging with her something that both of you enjoy so that you wont feel is a chore?
wtpg: On the contrary, I enjoy talking to my mum. The chore is to drag my feet out of the house. It’s just me. I consider leaving the house a chore to begin with.
Comment by wtpgrr — Mon, 15 Jan 2007 @ 7:15 pm
That was so sweet of your mum. Yes, we tend to take things for granted at times. You shd treasure the time while you can, don’t be like me who had taken things for granted (wrt mum), and now, I can’t even relive those memories again.
earthember: Yes, I really have to try harder…
Comment by earthember — Tue, 16 Jan 2007 @ 8:30 am