I don’t know about the other mummies but I can never bring my son out on my own without getting stressed up and all exasperated. It’s not so much that he is a difficult child but I just don’t have the physical strength, energy and sometimes patience to handle him by myself for a couple of hours in public.
My husband however, is able to bring my son out on his own without problems. He has done it a few times already and usually, they were just car rides or short walks of no more than an hour. Today however, father and son ventured a little longer on their own.
I had to go to the SIM open house around noon and had originally intended to make my own way there or at least make my own way back. My husband decided that he could send me there, head for lunch with the boy and come back to pick me up later. Although I was slightly apprehensive, I went along with the suggestion. Of course, without first reminding him of the dos and don’ts. I wasn’t that worried about the boy’s safety. What concerned me was that he might wear out his dad’s patience because the boy can occasionally, be difficult.
In the end, it all went well. As a matter of fact, more than well.
They came back to pick me up after two hours and Gavin was excitedly waving to me from his seat when he saw me and he even had something in one of his hands for me.
RED CARNATIONS!
Ho ho…both of them must have been at the florist’s admiring some cactus and decided to buy the flowers for me. A very small stalk no doubt. But the thought is big enough to make me smile for the rest of today. 
I donch think i can handle chloe on my own alone outside of the house either. But with Papa BoK .. no problems at all..
He even brings her to work with him. .sometimes.. when i haven’t gotten enough rest. 
MB: You think it could be becos of their physical strength? I have no strength to carry my boy for very long and that’s actually a major reason why I cannot handle him so well alone. Another problem is we don’t use a stroller when we’re out.
Comment by Mama Bok — Sun, 10 Sep 2006 @ 3:55 am
Ur hubby & son are so sweet…
Ashes: Yalor, I was also surprised cos I haven’t received flowers for so long liao…not even on mother’s day leh.
Comment by Ashes — Sun, 10 Sep 2006 @ 8:46 am
Aww! your boys are so sweet.
I, on the other hand, have no trouble handling my three boys on my own.
Niceheart: That’s great! Your boys sound rather well-behaved so I suppose that’s a major reason too…that, and if you’re speaking of current situation, they’re also more independent…
Comment by niceheart — Sun, 10 Sep 2006 @ 11:32 am
wow, such a sweet gesture from yr hubby and gavin =) carnations are such beautiful flowers..i esp love the ones with two tones. something like yellow w/ orange outlines hehe.
oh btw, regarding the banner thing u replied on my comment, i wanna say u r very capable lor! i cant believe u designed those graphics from scratch?! OMG lor…these few days ive been trying to do up a header but i really dont hv any inspiration
i keep redoing n redoing. in fact i tot of asking u to design one for me haha. but i want very vivid colors one…unlike yours which is simple n classic and with lots of empty spaces. i like mine all filled up with strong vivid colors or pics…just like my current one. but paiseh lah, how can request u to do for me. thats why til now i still cannot manage to do up a decent one. i oso wish i can change the headers every other day leh!
Evan: I like carnations too. They’re really pretty and more lasting than roses…
Ya, that’s why I say my style is different from yours. Actually, I have been trying to doodle in my limited capacity with the mouse. At my standard, I can never doodle anything close to your current header. These days, I also have no inspiration and my header is getting cleaner and cleaner. Cos I don’t know what to draw! Like today, thought of creating something but no mood and no inspiration. I have a few resources I used to check out for ideas. Maybe I can send the link to your email and you see if you get some inspiration from them?
Comment by Evan — Sun, 10 Sep 2006 @ 5:49 pm
I can handle my kids outside, but I will soudn like a terrible grouch: don’t touch this, don’t run over there, walk only along the white line, don’t eat with your hands… Sometimes, the outing may not be too pleasant.
The carnation is so sweet. I can see you smiling from ear to ear till tomorrow!
MS: The carnation is still good and I’m still smiling…:smile:
Comment by mother superior — Sun, 10 Sep 2006 @ 9:44 pm
your husband is really good at taking care of Gavin..kudos to him.
So he got any special training from you? Or a natural pro?
Erika: Now that you’ve mentioned it, actually he’s quite good with kids. He knew how to bathe the boy as a newborn with little teaching. In fact, better than me in that cos he’s got bigger arms. Feeding, etc also no problem. But he can be slightly impatient sometimes… Hey, btw, I’m having problems commenting on your blog since last week. Something about the beta version of blogger?
Comment by Erika — Mon, 11 Sep 2006 @ 1:03 am
Aw.. that’s so sweet.. i wonder if it’s Daddy’s idea or Gavin’s..
I only let my hubby bring Zara out to the supermarket and the park.. that’s all.. Further than that.. I’m worried. Hubby is quite insensative sometimes, he had several times left the girl and me in a hot car w/out the aircon turned on, and went talking to some people. At least if I’m with Zara, I can open the door and shout at him, but if Zara was with him alone, she would have been baked. That’s why, I get very nervous everytime he drives her out alone… So far, it doesn’t happen often, because I try to limit it.
ZM: I think they still need to be reminded though cos they can be quite careless at times…
Comment by zara's mama — Mon, 11 Sep 2006 @ 10:03 am
Your boys are great!
I have no problem handling Damien when i bring him out on my own, he seems better behave when we’re on our own. But with the daddy, he tends to whine and ask the daddy to carry.
Eileen: Gavin wants to be carried quite a lot when we go out. Especially with me…
Comment by Eileen — Mon, 11 Sep 2006 @ 10:45 am
I think it’s always alot easier on the mother if the hubby is willing to daddify himself, you know, clown around with the kids, and care for them. You got yourself two great guys, big and small!
DR: Sure…if not it’ll be very taxing for the mummy. Almost like a single mum!
Comment by domestic rat — Mon, 11 Sep 2006 @ 12:06 pm
oooh…that’s so sweet…..strange how something so simple (just a flower) can make you feel……
Althought I always bring my kids out alone, you would think I would be very seasoned by now but until this very day, I still get stressed whenever I have to bring them out alone…..having 2 eyes, 2 hands and 2 legs but have to look out for 4 eyes, 4 hands and 4 legs is hard work and age is catching up……no longer have the energy to be always on my toes to look out for them….much easier to have one kid to one parent. So sometimes, I prefer to stay home and wait till hubby comes back THEN only we go out TOGETHER….kekekek
Jan: You have double the burden! It would be impossible for me to handle two by myself in public considering how inept I am with one.
Comment by Jan (My lovely Rays) — Mon, 11 Sep 2006 @ 2:11 pm