Gavin will have to go back to school next week and I’m kind of worried. He has just recovered from his recent bout of flu and his immunity is probably still weak. But I can’t possibly keep him at home all the time, can I?
HAVING A CHILD = LIFELONG WORRYING
Everyday, we’ll exchange some notes about the boy. About something funny he said. Or something cheeky he did. Or maybe some strange behaviour we noticed. When he does something irritating, we’ll insist that he has inherited that negative trait from the OTHER parent. Which would sound something like that:
Me: See what you son did? YOUR son ah!
He: What? He’s 100% like you! Mini perfectionist!
Then we sort of came to a compromise just the other day.
He: You know, his behaviour is actually a reflection of us.
Me: Uh huh…
He: Geez, doesn’t that mean we’re pretty SCARY ourselves?
Me: *rolls eyes*
You know, it’s true, they are a reflection of us….mini us….that’s what I always say to my hubby, see…your kids ah!!!
Comment by Jan (My lovely Rays) — Wed, 21 Jun 2006 @ 11:12 am
I think so too.. therefore i always fear.. when Papa BoK loses his cool with Chloe… coz’ i donch want her to grow up thinking that it is cool to do that.
Comment by Mama Bok — Wed, 21 Jun 2006 @ 11:24 am
Yes! Children = Mother’s Lifelong Worried… even til the day our last gasp.
Another Yes! Children is a reflection of their parents and next time I will tell my girls when they want to choose a husband, look at the father of the guy first! Wahahaha
Comment by wtpgrr — Wed, 21 Jun 2006 @ 12:58 pm
Pretty much the same conversation we have at home. When the kids are being bad, it’s because they take after the other parent.
It’s true they are our mini-selves, and yet it’s pretty scary, huh?
Comment by niceheart — Wed, 21 Jun 2006 @ 1:30 pm
The lines are so familiar…;)”Your son ah!” that’s also what i tell hubby whenever Damien misbehave…hehehe…
Indeed we’re like a mirror to our kids, but it’s also through them that we learn to reflect upon ourself and hopefully improve ourself and become better parents.
Comment by Eileen — Wed, 21 Jun 2006 @ 2:31 pm
Hee.. I do the same with hubby too.. If she’s good, she’s MY DAUGHTER. If she’s naugther, she’s HIS DAUGTHER.
But yes, they are a reflection of us.. the way they speak and behave.. aaah..
Comment by zara's mama — Wed, 21 Jun 2006 @ 5:10 pm
Man… I agree with the part about having a child = lifelong worrying.
Call me mad, but sometimes I secretly source for good boys with nice family background for Nutty ( mostly are friends’ sons and etc…) so I can choose the right man for her to marry. So worried she might choose the wrong man…. u see, quite ” jia luck” right? She is still so young and I’m worrying about all these already.
Being a parent is no joke at all!
Comment by sunshinensunflower — Wed, 21 Jun 2006 @ 6:09 pm
My mom always says that even when we are all grown, she still worries about us. She says it never ends…
Hehe - your conversation with your husband is EXACTLY like what we have at home. If she’s good and clever, she’s my daughter. If she’s naughty and annoying, she’s his.
Comment by Hsin — Wed, 21 Jun 2006 @ 8:38 pm
I think mothers tend to worry more than dads. Somehow every woman has this inherent worrying mechanism that works incessantly, and further handicapped by the inability to let go at the right time. But exactly when is the right time?
Comment by domestic rat — Wed, 21 Jun 2006 @ 11:38 pm
I had a conversation with my friend a few days ago about this.. do you think that some characters of kids are actually in-born? Or mostly are from parents? Eg of characters: Bad temper, outgoing, etc.
Comment by Erika — Thu, 22 Jun 2006 @ 9:36 am
Haha…looks like we’re all quite alike! YOUR KIDS AH!!!
wtgr: Er, sometimes can also inherit stuff from the mum leh…
SSF: Wah, you’re quite the extreme leh…scouting prospective son-in-law NOW??? Hahaha…so funny!
Erika: I believe some traits are in-born but a lot of it are nurtured. We tend to learn by examples as well.
Comment by sesame — Thu, 22 Jun 2006 @ 9:45 am
I agreed… maybe i shd say during childhood they will display a mixture of both parents’ gene but when they reach their puberty, the masculine dad will has the major influential in moulding the son and the feminine mom moulding the daughter, therefore the children future character or mentality are more or less like their parent. The word,Like father like son, like mother like daughter does has it’s ground :p
Of course there are still cases, where the mother has very strong influential on the son and father on the daughter also
Comment by wtpgrr — Thu, 22 Jun 2006 @ 11:41 am