I am part of the Crazy Hip Blog Mama Web Ring which is oh so happening. They’ve started a bimonthly writing collaboration and this is the first prompt with the topic “What does being a Crazy Hip Blog Mama mean to you?
Well, this reminded me of an entry I wrote sometime back titled “Not just a mummy” and here’s an excerpt.
Of course I am not a bad mummy. I take care of him well, physically and emotionally. I make sure he is eating healthily, learning adequately and playing happily. But I also make sure I have a life outside all that……because one day my boy is going to tell me that he prefers to spend time with his friends, and not with me. He will grow up to be his own individual self, making his own judgements in life and about life. Just like me, an individual who happens to have a life intertwined with that of my family members, but beyond that, I am just ME. So while I spend a lot of time with him, and I do like that, it doesn’t mean my life should be just about him. Perhaps it was that when he was a lot younger. But now, I want to be myself, and not just being a mummy. Mummy is one of my identity, but I am also an individual pursuing my own happiness, and trying to live my life to the fullest with all the people and things around me…….
I like to think that I am a woman trying to have some fun, chill out sometimes and not being afraid of expressing my own individuality. But it is not always possible for me to project my individuality because of the various roles I play, chiefly that of being a mother, a wife and a daughter (in-law too). My blog is therefore THE other place apart from my toilet where I have proper time I can call my own. No, really. It’s here where I can really afford to let loose, be frivolous, wacky and hip all at once!
Yesh, being free to express myself and being with like-minded individuals! That’s what being a Crazy Hip Blog Mama means to me.
and yes, you are one crazy (but not that crazy) hip mommy!
I have to remember that too, I’m still ME, and shouldn’t just always hang out with Zara.. Should have my own space and place.
Comment by zara's mama — Tue, 7 Mar 2006 @ 1:43 pm
Yupper! U r sure 1 hip hip mummy tat I noe wor. Even hipper than my best friend who is a late 20s mum.
Comment by §Ashes§ — Tue, 7 Mar 2006 @ 6:26 pm
I totally agree. And I also think it’s good for the kids to see their mother as having a life outside of being a mother and not think that their mother’s life revolves entirely around them,
Comment by fuzzoo — Tue, 7 Mar 2006 @ 10:00 pm
Somebody told me sometime ago that I need to “fight to get my life back”. What a tall order. But I kind of like my life as it is now.
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Pingback by Crazy Hip Blog Mamas » Writing Collaboration: Week One — Wed, 8 Mar 2006 @ 2:21 am
I love your blog title and tag line BTW – and I too have found my blog as a place of solace and quiet…
Comment by Kristen — Wed, 8 Mar 2006 @ 3:20 am
I liked your CHBM post so much I’ve checked out more of your blog. What a neat place you have here! Fun, fresh and honest. I look forward to reading more.
Comment by Karin — Wed, 8 Mar 2006 @ 6:33 am
I think besides playing our role well, we have to be happy playing that particular role too! And yes, you’re definitely one hip mummy..i’m learning to be one..hehe..
Comment by Eileen — Wed, 8 Mar 2006 @ 9:49 am
I think you’ve nailed it: without an identity you can’t possibly be a good mom. Your daughter needs to grow up and see you not just as “mom” but as a reader, a writer, a thinker, a ponderer, a comedienne, a nurturer and all the things that you are.
Comment by mom101 — Thu, 9 Mar 2006 @ 3:15 am