Now that the furor has dieded, I am freer to comment about my recent entry.
Having my article Tomorrowed is a kind of fanfare that works as a double-edge sword. On one hand, it brings more readers to my blog, albeit temporarily. On the other hand, I become a target for unsavory comments because of the feminist undertone in my article. When I realised that my article was recommended, I thought I would get flamed big time. Fortunately, the comments left here were still palatable. There were of course a few detractors who didn’t share my views, saying that I was being overly bias, but these did a trackback and made those acid attacks on their own blogs. Luckily, moi is a very self-assured Singapore woman who can handle diversity in views. 
I wasn’t trying to promote the battle of the sexes, as some had called it. It was just my take on something I found interesting. Anyway, I do not subscribe to the view that “it’s a short cut for men to have it all and have it fast” as stated by the person who recommended my article. I know he or she was probably trying to be sarcastic but I better qualify myself as I don’t want to be slained by the girls if all the local men start finding themselves instant brides. Haha…
Well since I’m on the topic, I must as well say more now. Actually, I had wanted to add on to that earlier entry that I haven’t heard of local girls buying instant foreign bridegrooms. But it would have made the entry too long and convoluted. Now, I am not against matchmaking but I am against instant marriages. Marriage is a huge gamble. So why complicate matters?
Many local women I know are contented to remain single and self-sufficient so I find it rather disturbing that there are men who are so backward in their thinking. So backward that they’re willing to buy themselves instant brides to satisfy their ego. According to an article here, if you buy yourself a wife, you are a sick donkey that supports slavery.
I have a few single girlfriends who are in their 30s and are not dating. Godma is a good example. She’s fun, easy going and very intelligent. We always call her a social butterfly because she can socialise with just about anyone of any gender and any age group. She has dated in the past but she’s currently unattached. I know she’s not demanding and she’s definitely not high maintenance. But she just can’t seem to meet someone whom she can fall in love with. A few months ago, I asked her if she will consider matchmaking, especially with Hong Kong men and she recoiled in horror. Her answer was an adamant NO. She’ll rather stick to her singlehood than to be matchmade.
Then there is Ling, who is sweet and demure with very good temperments. Because of her introverted nature and because she has lost some six years with her ex-Muslim boyfriend, her chances of meeting someone now is probably close to nil. She wouldn’t consider matchmaking too and is contented to stay the swinging single. In fact, she’s enjoying her life, travelling very frequently with a bunch of like-minded single girlfriends.
I am another example. Before I met my husband, I was prepared to remain a bachelorette. I didn’t consider matchmaking either because I find that arrangement too contrived.
No matter how cliche it sounds, I still think that marriage is about love. I cannot imagine waking up next to a stranger, no matter how good looking he is only with the exception if he is Takuya Kimura the man. ;) So I really cannot comprehend some of our men. Those average joes who obviously cannot attract and maintain a pretty, sweet young Singapore chick. Instead of being satisfied with a familiar local plain jane who is unlikely to be too submissive, they rather buy some pretty, sweet, young, submissive foreign strangers. It just makes me wonder: is this all part of a new social phenomenon on instant gratification?
